Hello, Morning!

Remember earlier in the week when I blogged about how I had a terrible cold and was super worried that the newborn would also catch a terrible cold? Good news! I survived the cold (which is still hanging on, btw) and the newborn didn’t catch it (at least not yet. Breastfeeding ftw!).

Since it appears that I’m not going to die (immediately anyway), I wanted to let you know about some steps I’ve taken over the last few weeks to do something that’s always been out of my reach.

I’m going to become a morning person.

If you see me on a daily basis, you probably know I’m categorically NOT a morning person. That’s not to say I don’t like mornings. I actually love mornings. I love waking up, having a hot beverage, reading a bit, and eating breakfast all preferably while sitting outside or near a window. What I don’t love is doing things in the morning. I hate being forced to get up and rush to get ready for the day and rush to be somewhere. I like having time in the morning. I like mornings that prepare me for the day. Alas, mornings like that rarely happen to me.

Instead my mornings generally go like this–I wake up about 15 minutes late (yes, no matter what time I set my alarm for I wake up 15 minutes later than I need to), I rush to the shower, rush through the shower, toss on some makeup, hurriedly do my hair, toss on some clothes (which will hopefully be easier with my ongoing closet reorganization), make my breakfast smoothie, grab lunch, grab my bag, and head out the door. And that’s just the me stuff. You also have to add in the helping Stella get ready stuff. Sean and I divide this up, so it’s never the same but always had 15-20 mins to the morning routine. Now that Marci is here and I add nursing her and getting her stuff together to the routine, we’ll be looking at another 15-20 minutes to all of that. So we’re looking at probably a 2 hour-ish morning routine before I even make it out the door.

And that’s why I need to become a morning person. Mornings like I described above (i.e. every morning I’m not on maternity leave) cause a lot of unnecessary stress and leave me feeling frazzled for the rest of the day. Much like the closet reorganization, I’ve got a plan. This one is less complicated, but will undoubtedly be much harder to implement.

Basically, the plan is to incorporate the things I love about mornings into my everyday morning routine. Obviously all of those things can’t happen every morning unless I want to wake up for the day at 3 a.m. Since I definitely don’t want that to happen, I’m working on altering those things to fit my schedule. I’ll be incorporating habits to give me more focus, make me more alert, and give me more energy throughout the day. My goals are to give up caffeine (check!), drinking lemon/honey water, incorporating 15-20 minutes of yoga and/or meditation, and, this is the big one, not pick up my phone or hit the snooze button before I’m ready to walk out the door.

Since the hardest part about this plan is going to be, you know, actually doing it, I’m starting it now. That gives be about 8 weeks or so before I have to actually use it to get out the door at a specific time. So far, I’ve given up caffeine (remarkably easy with a newborn) and have started drinking lemon/honey water (surprisingly refreshing and soothing). I’m working on the not picking up the phone part of the plan, but that’s not going well. At some point in the coming weeks, I’ll start doing some yoga after I wake up and, eventually, I’ll start setting an alarm again and not snoozing it.

I can’t say I’m a morning person yet. At least not in the sense that I enjoy doing things in the morning, but I think I’ll get there. And, hey, we’re one step closer. If you’ll notice, I’m actually writing this post in the morning! Woohoo!

Baby steps, my friends, baby steps.

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On being an introvert

It probably comes as no surprise to most of you to learn that I’m an introvert. In fact, if you’ve been reading the blog for a while you may remember that I’ve mentioned that fact before. Under the very best circumstances, being extremely busy or very social for extended periods of time is exhausting to me.

I realized earlier this week that having a newborn exacerbates my normal introvert tendencies to super-introvert level. I think its because there’s really no alone time when you have a newborn; either the newborn is with you or the toddler is with you or you have visitors (who are hopefully not expecting you to entertain them). Regardless, you’re never alone and if there’s one thing I know about myself its how much I need alone time.

That realization led me to think about being an introvert in general. On one hand, I’m very glad that in the last several years introverts have been getting a lot of attention. Growing up, everyone thought I was shy and a loner. I neither of those, but being categorized that way from an early age shaped my personality. From that perspective, I’m glad that introversion is becoming more widely acknowledged and understood. BUT I also feel like being an introvert is that “cool” thing to be right now. I just want to go on record now as having been an introvert before it was mainstream.

Coincidentally, a few days after those 3 a.m. realizations, I came across a very interesting link on the Modern Mrs. Darcy blog (have you discovered that blog? No? You should totally read it.). The link was to a blog called Introvert, Dear and was to a post about the 4 types of introverts. That’s right. Apparently, there’s not just one kind of introvert. The four types identified are social, thinking, anxious, and restrained. I took the quiz at Scientific American and my type of introversion is thinking. I read the description of thinking introversion and it’s basically a description of me. So, at least for me, the quiz is accurate. Even if it’s not accurate, it’s pretty fun.

Spring cleaning

The suspiciously un-blizzardy weather (I can see the grass!) we’ve been having the last few days has me thinking about spring cleaning.  I want to clean and organize ALL THE THINGS, but since I’m only 10 days postpartum I’ve decided to baby steps (Ha! See what I did there? Baby steps…) and do small tasks for now instead of taking on the BIG ONE (the garage) immediately. I’m going to be reorganizing/cleaning/clearing most areas in my house over the next few months as part of a move to a more minimalist lifestyle, so you’ll probably be reading quite a bit about my “spring” cleaning.

First task is my closet. Why is the closet first? Two reasons. First, I’ve gotten much too comfortable wearing leggings as pants. Don’t misunderstand. I LOVE leggings. Especially when pregnant and postpartum. But I can’t in good conscience keep wearing leggings as pants like 3 times a week.

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Exhibit A: My outfit today.

Non-legging related reason to start with the closet: Right now I have  3 different wardrobes and that’s 2 too many. I have a regular wardrobe for spring, summer, fall, and winter, a maternity wardrobe for fall and winter, and a postpartum wardrobe for spring/summer. To make matters worse, portions of each are all currently in my closet. It’s a mess.

So, how is this closet spring cleaning going to work? Slowly and in baby steps. First, the maternity wardrobe goes into storage. I’m not sure that I’m finished with it  and 10 days postpartum is too soon to make final decision. Next, I’m taking a good look at the postpartum wardrobe. Obvs this is the wardrobe I’m wearing now and if my experience with Stella is any indication, I’ll be wearing this wardrobe for several months (probably into the early fall or even winter) and will need to add a few pieces. After that, I’ll be going through my regular wardrobe. Even though I won’t be wearing it for a while, I know what I wore and what I really didn’t and can go ahead and pare it down before I actually start wearing it again. Finally, I’m going to edit my accessories. Shoes, jewelry, bags, etc. I have tons of accessories because I’ve always had the mentality that more options are better than fewer options. Now it’s time to face facts: at this point in my life, more options overwhelm me and I can’t decide which pair of red shoes I should wear and just end up wearing black instead.

The end goal of all of this is a capsule wardrobe. I’m really drawn to the idea of a capsule wardrobe because, as I mentioned with the accessories, I don’t really have the time or energy to have a lot of clothing options right now. I want to be able to reach into my closet and know that whatever I pull out is going to go together.  I’m doing this with the stylebook app and my Breastfeeding Friendly Closet pinterest board (because for the next 2 years or so my wardrobe also has to be breastfeeding friendly).

Things got rolling today when I started gathering up maternity clothes (minus my favorite Old Navy tanks which have made the leap from maternity to full-time wardrobe) for storage. Tomorrow I’m planning to pull the postpartum wardrobe from storage and begin the process of adding it to stylebook and evaluating what I need to add to it. Of course, all of this is contingent on a newborn so things may or may not go according to plan. This is going to be a long process (probably), but I’ll provide updates to let you know how/if its working out along the way.

When you’re too busy for social media

You’ve no doubt noticed that my blog posting frequency has dropped dramatically since Stella was born TWO years ago. Well, so has my facebook usage. Really, the only social media I use regularly is twitter and instagram. After some thought, I’ve realized why. Both twitter and instagram take about 30 seconds to post to It’s easy and it’s quick and, best of all, it gives me the illusion that I’m still connected to people. So, if you’re not following me on twitter or instagram, you really should be.

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Word of warning, my instagram feed is a lot of Stella and my dogs and snow (at least this week). All of this is because earlier this year, I discovered Printsagram. It’s an awesome site that lets you print photo books from your instagram feed. I love doing yearly photo books, but honestly I don’t have time to mess with uploading photos and choosing layouts and editing pictures. With this site you literally just pick which pictures from your instagram feed you want and it arranges them by date and voila, you’re done. It’s basically the best thing ever when you don’t even have time to write a facebook post. And the book was beautiful! All of this to say, I’m posting lots more this year than last so I can have a better book for 2015.

*I feel like I should say here that Prinstagram isn’t paying me anything or even giving me anything for free in return for saying good things about them. I mean, I wouldn’t turn free stuff down, but I really just like the site. 

Off balance

At times, I think everyone is a little a off-balance. Of course, that’s what this blog is all about. Finding balance. I wish I could say that I have it all figured out, but I don’t.

For the last couple of weeks, I have just been swamped with work. It has definitely gotten in the way of the rest of my life. And, now, I’m definitely feeling off-balance. I know what I need is to have a day or two alone to recharge my introvert self. Unfortunately, that day wasn’t today and it’s not going to be tomorrow.

Luckily, I have a developed introvert survival skills for over programmed times like this.  Well, it’s really only one skill. And that one skill is to make sure I have at least an hour to myself with no planned activities everyday in which I just do whatever I feel like doing. For the last week, that one hour has been pretty much exclusively yoga-related. I think that’s really a very good indication of the state of mind I’ve been in lately.

I’ve been stressed. I’ve been frazzled. I’ve just been… out of sorts.

Even though those few yoga hours I’ve had the last week haven’t been quite enough, they’ve definitely helped. I can feel myself slowly coming back to my equilibrium.

Getting my balance back.

I’m not there yet, but  it’s coming.