Don’t judge me because I’m a vegetarian

Today I came across this NPR blog post: Do Vegetarians and Vegans Think They Are Better Than Everyone Else?  The post was interesting, but nothing earth shattering to me. The basic premise is this: No. Vegetarians and vegans don’t think they’re better than everyone else, but others think they think they’re better than everyone else.

I agree wholeheartedly with this premise.

I’ve been a vegetarian for a little over three years now and before that I ate very little meat. I’m an ovo-lacto vegetarian, which, for me, means I eat eggs and dairy, but no animal flesh or products that actually require the death of an animal to make (no broths or gelatin or fish oil).  Because I didn’t eat that much meat before I stopped all together, my diet isn’t actually that different than it was three years ago. So, I was a little surprised, no, shocked when people began treating me differently because I was a vegetarian.

Once I decided to quit eating meat, I didn’t make a big announcement. I just stopped. In fact, I’m not sure that my husband even noticed until several months after the fact. But, as people started noticing, their attitudes toward me at mealtimes started changing. Suddenly, the fact that I ordered “pasta with no chicken, please” became a topic of dinner-time conversation. At first, this wasn’t so bad. After three years, though, its gotten a little tedious to explain, at a large portion of the social gatherings I go to, why I’m a vegetarian and then debate the pros and cons of the choice with everyone in earshot.

That’s not the worst part, though. The worst part is that people get defensive and attack me and my diet choice. At first, I didn’t understand why this happened. As time has passed, though, I think I’ve got it figured out: People seem to think that because I’m a vegetarian, I think I’m better than they are and that I’m judging them.

Now, maybe you think I’m jumping to conclusions, that the NPR post-influenced me. Not the case. I’ve been in what feels like a million situations where people–friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers–have made comments like what I really need to knock me off my high horse is a ham sandwich (actual quote), or how I must not be healthy because I can’t possibly be getting all the nutrition I need, or that it must really upset me to see everyone enjoying the ribs because so many animals had to die to make that smorgasbord.

To be clear: I’m not judging you for not being a vegetarian. I don’t think I’m better than you because I decided not to eat meat.

In fact, it seems to me that any belief others have that I am judging them or that I do think I’m better than them because I eat my pasta meatless is actually a projection of how they feel  themselves. In my interactions with the carnivores of the world, they have, at least at first, judged me for being a vegetarian and thought that they were better than me because they eat meat. Maybe others have had different experiences, but that’s mine. Maybe the judging I’m subjected to comes because people think I’m judging them.

What’s the solution to all the misunderstanding? Really, the only solution is to not judge a person by their diet. But, just like not judging a book by its cover, that probably won’t happen.  So, looks like I’ll keep using my “Why I’m a vegetarian” speech for most social occasions.





Historic Preservation… and the Moon??


Historic Preservation and the Moon.

That’s the title of the post the sister-in-law, R., posted today on her new blog, Bricks + Mortar. Bricks + Mortar is all about R.’s passion (and career!), historic preservation. Today, she posted a pretty interesting blog about, as the title suggests, historic preservation on the moon. And guess what? It got freshly pressed! I’m so excited that I had share. Even if historic preservation isn’t something you think about every day, click over and give her blog a read. It’s a detour you won’t regret it.

All good things must come to an end

S. and I are leaving our glorious beach vacation behind today. We were planning for a late departure this afternoon complete with a mini beach day, but then we both got horribly sunburned yesterday. So that plan got scratched.

Despite that we had decided to get up in an attempt to see the sunrise one more time. When the alarm went off this morning, I got up, opened the curtains, and… Rain. Lots of heavy rain. Sadly, I climbed back into bed (first time I’ve ever written that sentence). A few minutes later, when I couldn’t go back to sleep, I decided to get up and have some coffee of the very drippy balcony. That’s when I saw this:


Despite the really heavy rain (which miraculously didn’t show up in the picture) I can see the sun rising!

Hope your Friday is as surprising!


I’ve officially been on vacation since Friday and it has been absolutely fabulous. We’ve been sleeping in, walking on the beach, eating fabulous meals, laying on the beach, I’ve been yoga-ing, and… just generally doing things at our own pace. You know. Like you do on vacation.

While it’s been amazing and I’m having a wonderful time, just doing whatever we feel like doing whenever doesn’t make for much blog fodder. I mean, I could go on and on about how much I’m enjoying taking 3-4 mile beach walks everyday and detail all the shells we’ve collected and how I got a terrible sunburn yesterday, but, frankly, I think I’m the only one who wants to relive all that. So, here’s some pictures I’ve snapped with the ol’iphone.

View from our room

First time on the beach

Our “homemade” beach chairs. Surprisingly comfortable.

S. watching a storm roll in

Me on the remnants of a sand castle… it was impossible not to get my belly in the shot.

The beach at dawn.

I’m off to enjoy another day lounging on the beach. Hope yours is just as enjoyable!

Waiting for Breakfast

In case you missed the one million times I’ve mentioned it this week, I’m on vacation!

Although vacation actually started Friday at 3:30, we didn’t actually leave for our destination until yesterday afternoon when we dropped our dogs off with my mom (thanks, mom!) and headed to Asheville. Asheville isn’t our ultimate destination, but we decided that pregnant Martha probably wouldn’t be happy if we did the entire drive in one leg. So, we stopped here on our way to the coast.

Last night, after we arrived we headed downtown to find something to eat and to wonder around for a bit. We secured food AND live entertainment pretty quickly and spent the rest of the evening just hanging out and watching some live music.

This morning, we decided to head back downtown for breakfast before continuing our epic journey east. We’re currently waiting to eat at Tupelo Honey… Normally pregnant Martha doesn’t enjoy waiting for food, but check out this menu! This is going to be fabulous!

Hope your Sunday is just as awesome!

Homemade tomato sauce

If you’ve been following me on twitter today, you know that I’m officially on vacation!! Of course, this is roughly the most exciting thing that has ever happened to me.* But, like all things, there is a downside. This week my CSA share, which is normally shared with R., is all mine. And it’s full of tomatoes and corn and peppers and tons of other things that we can’t possibly eat all of before  our trip.

*Note to the future offspring: that was hyperbole.

So, to use up a large chunk of the tomatoes, which, incidentally have been fabulous this year, I made fresh tomato sauce. I used a recipe that was included with the CSA this week. It’s really simple: Tomatoes, Olive Oil, Salt, Pepper, and Basil.  I added some balsamic vinegar and food processed it all until smooth.  After the sauce is complete, just add to some hot pasta and top with some Parmesan.

Lunch today. I also added a tofurkey Italian sausage.

This is basically a perfect summer meal, light, fast, and full of the taste of summer. Fabulous!

Update: I’ve developed a small-ish (?) baby bump


16 weeks

I know, i know. The bump isn’t that big.

Looking at this picture you would never know that I feel like I’m approximately the size of a hippopotamus. (Probably due in part to my lack of well-fitting clothing.)

Other than that all’s well. The flooring install project, which is coming along nicely, is making me a little crazy because I can’t find anything. I’ll be updating that soon.

In the meantime, I’m keeping my eye on the prize: awesome new floors… And vacation next week!